Let’s talk about love, baby.

What does it mean to love and be loved in return? How do I find The One? Does True Love even exist? How will I know?

These thoughts (and so many others) used to run through my mind with an obsessive cadence that would rival Patrick Gilmore. I was love-starved, insecure, and most of all lonely. The solution? Spellwork.

But not the kind you think. I mean the hard work of loving-kindness meditations that made my heart break. Journaling until my fingers cramped. Long, heartfelt conversations with friends and processing with my therapist. The mundane work of healing and growing into a whole-ass human being. It’s my life’s work!

But I didn’t do it alone and it took ages (still a work in progress). I found solace in candle magic and divining practices that might show me a brighter future or a glimpse of almost-could be.

So from me, a married old crone, to anyone yearning for companionship, for intimacy, for the soul-healing of a kindred spirit, I offer my Love Spell for the Lonely and Bruised. Inside you’ll find everything you need for a simple love-attracting spell. Light the candle, set the simmer pot to steaming, and dive into the heart of the matter to reveal the attributes of your true match!

Instructions for Use

Please for the love of Sif, do not burn your house down. Or the forest. Or wherever you’re lighting things on fire. Remember, safety first!

Ingredients

▪ candle
▪ incense
▪ love token
▪ altar cloth
▪ simmer pot pouch (rose buds, lavender, rosemary, catnip, orange peel)
▪ bay leaves

First, ground and center yourself using box breathing or any other technique that suits you. Light the candle and incense. The simmer pot pouch may be placed in a pot full of water on low heat until steaming (do not boil). If preferred, the pouch may be opened and contents used as an offering to your love deity of choice, or simply scattered around for ~vibes~. Concentrate on the flame, close your eyes, and let your mind empty. Breathe in and out for a few cycles, then direct your attention to what qualities you wish to attract in a partner (romantic, platonic, etc.).

Allow these qualities to float into your awareness. Make a note of them but don’t try to hold these thoughts too firmly – we’re trying to bring forward possibilities rather than guarantees, and they’re delicate, fragile things spun out of secret hopes and dreams. Open your eyes and hold the end of the love token so that the heart acts as a pendulum. Allow it to drift and dangle, wiggling it gently until it spells out the qualities your subconscious is calling out for. Next, choose three of the qualities that came to you and write them on the included bay leaves. You may keep them on your altar or (my choice) burn them! You may repeat this spell by blowing out the candle and relighting the candle while meditating on the qualities you wish to attract before committing to writing them down.